5 Grounding & Earthing Tips For Introverted Moms With Multiple Kids
Feeling exhausted from the endless interaction with your kids? Motherhood is beautiful and it is challenging, and all mothers understand this ironic reality, as Jamie C. Martin, author of “Introverted Mom: Your Guide to More Calm, Less Guilt, and Quiet Joy,” recounts in her book. Motherhood can be especially hard for introverts because they lose a lot of the alone time they had before having kids. Being people who draw energy from spending some quiet time alone, taking some much-needed time alone does not make you a bad mother, according to VeryWell Family. It only means that you are different and that you have diverse needs and objectives.
But then again, it is very easy for introverted moms to forget that fact. They are so often overwhelmed by the stresses of contemporary life and by comparing themselves to all the extroverted mothers who seem to be rocking their motherhood journey. As such, an introverted mom may come off feeling like a total letdown.
Things do not have to feel that way. By becoming self-aware and devoting a little time to yourself and your kids, you can thrive as a mom, and here is how.
Know & Accept Yourself
First and foremost, recognize that you are an introvert and accept your personality. You can read books and articles about what being an introvert means to help you become more aware of your character.
When you learn that your introversion is not an error in your character, that is when the change will begin, as the Association for Psychological Science mentions. As soon as you accept your personality, you can stop feeling guilty for craving time alone and begin planning a routine around your needs. After all, attending to your needs is as important as attending to your child’s wants and needs.
Allow Yourself Some Guilt-Free Alone Time
Now that you are aware of your need for enough time alone, you can come up with ways to make time for it, according to Mgb Relationships. Mostly when the demands of motherhood feel important, you may easily forget that you can also find some alone time beyond your kids’ nap times.
Look at your daily and weekly plan and examine them for instances where you can create moments of doing nothing. Perhaps you may want to get up early before your family does, for even 10 minutes of solitude as you sip some coffee or meditate. Perhaps you can turn off the music and decisively be alone with your feelings whenever you drive home from your workplace.
Take A Half/Full-Day Retreat
Whether introverted or not, every parent needs a reprieve from time to time. This could mean taking a small retreat by yourself, even if it is once a year, once a week, or once a month. Take a day (half or full), to do anything you wish to do, alone. As Dr. Marti Olsen Laney states in her book, “The Introvert Advantage: How Quiet People Can Thrive in an Extrovert World,” your brain suffers if you do not prioritize downtime in your routine.
Go for a long walk, get a full body massage, read for hours at a coffee shop or a bookstore, scribble on your journal, whatever you want. Do not feel uncomfortable asking for assistance from your parent, spouse, or babysitter. Or perhaps another parent can hold a playdate.
Set Social Boundaries
Motherhood requires interacting with other mothers, caregivers, and kids, including your kids. Remember, it is OK to say "no" to social activities, particularly if you are an introvert who finds constant social activities strenuous.
You do not have to go for all the mothers’ night outings, agree to join every committee, or say yes to everything your kids ask, particularly if the request is something or someplace that will leave you feeling miserable, according to Dr. Susan Newman, social psychologist, and writer of, "The Book of No: 365 Ways To Say It and Mean It – and Stop People-Pleasing Forever.”
As exciting as all of the events may be, spending too much time with others may exhaust you and deny you the time you could have then used to relax and revitalize yourself.
Share Your Hobbies With Your Kids
Share your favorite pastimes with your kids so you can get to spend some quality time with them in ways you relish. For instance, you can do some gardening, watch films or read books with your kids. This will help you bond and create fond memories of your time together.
As well, it can expose you to your children’s personality traits. That way, you can take note of introverted behaviors in your children, accept them and help them thrive!